My world was altered a bit yesterday around 3pm. I had noticed that I had missed a few calls on my cell phone. And 30 minutes later my husband called my office phone. Instantly, when I saw his number pop up on caller I.D., I knew something was wrong. He never calls me at the office. I answered the phone and the tone in his voice just confirmed my suspicions. Something was wrong. He said he heard, what he had hoped to be, a horrible rumor. And I knew, because of the multiple missed calls, that the rumor was true. My heart sank and I felt a little bit of denial. I spent a moment gathering my thoughts. And began to pray that God would give me wisdom.
I called my daughter, Kath, in California. She was the one who had been calling me earlier. And she confirmed the news. Devin, her ex-boyfriend had died the night before. My heart felt like someone had used it as a punching bag. You see, even though Kath and Devin had broken up years ago, Devin was still like a son to me. And he and Kath were still close.
I left work and headed towards home. I knew I had to talk to Christian. Devin was a brother to my son. And I knew that he was going to be heartbroken, angry and confused. A while back Christian had written a song about Devin. And he talked about Devin's struggles. As Christian and I talked he reminded me of that very song. He said he was reflecting on how the song ended. And how ironic it was that Devin's life ended the same way he predicted in the lyrics.
I then called Alyssa. And by the time I reached her she told me she found out from social media that Devin had passed away. She was crushed and heavy-hearted. And told me that she was confused. She and Devin were making plans to hang out together. Not only did she consider him her brother but they were now neighbors.
I made a few additional calls. There were people I didn't want to find out about Devin through "Social media". And I sent out multiple text messages. This was and is so surreal.
As I sit here this morning, reflecting on the memories I have of Devin, my heart continues to feel bruised. He came into our family not knowing the love of Jesus Christ. I remember thinking that he was just some punk kid my teen-aged daughter was mildly interested in. And that he would just be another "boyfriend" and in a few days, a thing of the past. But the days turned to months. And the months turned to years. And during those days, months and years I began to love this boy as my own. I wanted him to know the love of God in the same way I knew of His love. I wanted to push him in the right direction. So I prayed and set the "dominoes" in place. I sought out every opportunity to show him unconditional love. And asked him to come to church with us. I remember giving him his first bible. And I had great joy in my heart when I would catch him reading it. And then the dominoes began to fall. Devin began seeking for truth. He was coming to church and asking questions. I would talk to him about pastors that I thought he would relate to. There was one in particular, Greg Laurie. I remember handing him a book written by Greg and asking him to read it. And a few days later I found him actually reading it without me nagging him about it.
Over the years Devin and I had multiple discussions on God's grace. I knew Devin was battling demons. But, I also knew that he was now aware of God's love for him. We talked off and on over the past few years. And sometimes prayed together. It gave me great joy to know that he had found a church in Manayunk that he loved. He was forever grafted into our crazy family. Despite Kath breaking up with him he would remain in our lives. Kath never stopped loving Devin and he never stopped loving her. She just couldn't help him rid his life of those demons.
Our lives were blessed because God led Devin to our door. Yes, I wanted to point him in another direction at first. I am so thankful that I didn't. You see he had a domino effect on our lives too. Alyssa and Christian learned to never be afraid of who God made them to be because of Devin. He taught us all that being goofy was necessary. He taught Kath about life and how to laugh at craziness. And because of him she is a very strong and courageous woman. And, as for me, he made my heart bigger.
I am going to miss his text messages and his calls. However, I know this one great truth. God is faithful. And His promises are true. We will see Devin again. And when we do he will be whole. We were absolutely blessed to have known Devin. And I know that God purposefully put Devin into our lives. Each one of us helped in directing Devin to God's unconditional love. Devin may have needed strength to trust in God a little more. But at least he trusted that God did truly love him.
For I am convinced that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor power, nor height, nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord ~Romans 8:38-39
Brothers and sisters, we do not want you to be uninformed about those who sleep in death, so that you do not grieve like the rest of mankind, who have no hope. For we believe that Jesus died and rose again, and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus those who have fallen asleep in him. According to the Lord's word, we tell you that we who are still alive, ,who are left until the coming of the Lord. will certainly not precede those who have fallen asleep. For the Lord himself will come down from heaven, with a loud command, with the voice of the archangel and with the trumpet call of God, and the dead in Christ will rise first. After that we who and still alive and are left will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. And so we will be with the Lord forever. Therefore encourage one another with these words. ~1 Thessalonians 4:13-18
I called my daughter, Kath, in California. She was the one who had been calling me earlier. And she confirmed the news. Devin, her ex-boyfriend had died the night before. My heart felt like someone had used it as a punching bag. You see, even though Kath and Devin had broken up years ago, Devin was still like a son to me. And he and Kath were still close.
I left work and headed towards home. I knew I had to talk to Christian. Devin was a brother to my son. And I knew that he was going to be heartbroken, angry and confused. A while back Christian had written a song about Devin. And he talked about Devin's struggles. As Christian and I talked he reminded me of that very song. He said he was reflecting on how the song ended. And how ironic it was that Devin's life ended the same way he predicted in the lyrics.
I then called Alyssa. And by the time I reached her she told me she found out from social media that Devin had passed away. She was crushed and heavy-hearted. And told me that she was confused. She and Devin were making plans to hang out together. Not only did she consider him her brother but they were now neighbors.
I made a few additional calls. There were people I didn't want to find out about Devin through "Social media". And I sent out multiple text messages. This was and is so surreal.
As I sit here this morning, reflecting on the memories I have of Devin, my heart continues to feel bruised. He came into our family not knowing the love of Jesus Christ. I remember thinking that he was just some punk kid my teen-aged daughter was mildly interested in. And that he would just be another "boyfriend" and in a few days, a thing of the past. But the days turned to months. And the months turned to years. And during those days, months and years I began to love this boy as my own. I wanted him to know the love of God in the same way I knew of His love. I wanted to push him in the right direction. So I prayed and set the "dominoes" in place. I sought out every opportunity to show him unconditional love. And asked him to come to church with us. I remember giving him his first bible. And I had great joy in my heart when I would catch him reading it. And then the dominoes began to fall. Devin began seeking for truth. He was coming to church and asking questions. I would talk to him about pastors that I thought he would relate to. There was one in particular, Greg Laurie. I remember handing him a book written by Greg and asking him to read it. And a few days later I found him actually reading it without me nagging him about it.
Over the years Devin and I had multiple discussions on God's grace. I knew Devin was battling demons. But, I also knew that he was now aware of God's love for him. We talked off and on over the past few years. And sometimes prayed together. It gave me great joy to know that he had found a church in Manayunk that he loved. He was forever grafted into our crazy family. Despite Kath breaking up with him he would remain in our lives. Kath never stopped loving Devin and he never stopped loving her. She just couldn't help him rid his life of those demons.
Our lives were blessed because God led Devin to our door. Yes, I wanted to point him in another direction at first. I am so thankful that I didn't. You see he had a domino effect on our lives too. Alyssa and Christian learned to never be afraid of who God made them to be because of Devin. He taught us all that being goofy was necessary. He taught Kath about life and how to laugh at craziness. And because of him she is a very strong and courageous woman. And, as for me, he made my heart bigger.
I am going to miss his text messages and his calls. However, I know this one great truth. God is faithful. And His promises are true. We will see Devin again. And when we do he will be whole. We were absolutely blessed to have known Devin. And I know that God purposefully put Devin into our lives. Each one of us helped in directing Devin to God's unconditional love. Devin may have needed strength to trust in God a little more. But at least he trusted that God did truly love him.
For I am convinced that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor power, nor height, nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord ~Romans 8:38-39
Brothers and sisters, we do not want you to be uninformed about those who sleep in death, so that you do not grieve like the rest of mankind, who have no hope. For we believe that Jesus died and rose again, and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus those who have fallen asleep in him. According to the Lord's word, we tell you that we who are still alive, ,who are left until the coming of the Lord. will certainly not precede those who have fallen asleep. For the Lord himself will come down from heaven, with a loud command, with the voice of the archangel and with the trumpet call of God, and the dead in Christ will rise first. After that we who and still alive and are left will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. And so we will be with the Lord forever. Therefore encourage one another with these words. ~1 Thessalonians 4:13-18
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